Advice from A Lexis

Success is a path you walk together


Dear Readers,

I’ve always been a fan of the “I can do it myself” mentality. It tends to go hand-in-hand with female empowerment, but something I’ve realized over the years is that no one accomplishes anything alone (despite what they might say).

This isn’t to say that we aren’t capable of doing amazing things, but rather about acknowledging the value of the people in our lives.

Working with a business coach has clarified this truth even more for me. Working with someone who’s accomplished the task I want to accomplish is sure to shave off years of trial and error that I would have to go through otherwise.

There have been thousands of times in this process where I’ve found myself amazed by the growth I’ve already gone through, often without even noticing, because of the input and system that’s been laid out ahead of me.

There’s still plenty of road ahead, but it goes to show the power of association, and the necessity of showing gratitude for those who’ve provided us with opportunities to build a better life.

Anyone who has a job got that job because someone was willing to take a risk on them.

Anyone with a successful business has a list of customers standing behind their accomplishments. Anyone with children has a partner (whether in the creation, or in life) and a slew of friends, family, and strangers encouraging them along the way.

Important to be grateful


I know that it can be tempting to look at what you’ve accomplished and say “look what I’ve done,” but if you aren’t careful this line of thought can take you to dark places. None of us lives this life alone. None of us succeed in a vacuum. Luck, relationships, and talent all play a role; it’s important to acknowledge the people and circumstances that helped us out. It’s important to be grateful.

Not where you want to be?

That’s okay.

Asking for help in times of struggle doesn’t make you weak, it makes you normal. It’s not odd that you aren’t able to figure everything out on your own, it’s an opportunity for you to reach out to a friend.

We all have moments when we are down, and moments when we are up.

Find those who’ve been through the struggle and learn from them. Ask questions and listen without judgment. Take a chance and test the advice given, at worst it doesn’t work. When things turn around, remember those who took the time to help guide you along the way. And then, should someone else come to you with a similar problem, pay it forward and give someone else the same hope you received.

Thank you to all those who’ve spoken into my life, for all the teachers whose knowledge has fueled my growth, and to the friends and family who’ve supported me through it all.

          ~ Lexis

Lexis is Alexis Rae Baker. She writes from her home in Olympia.  Got a question about life, relationships, spirit? Visit her at or write to Lexis at 


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